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Reader Sweetlove Responds:
I think the answers were not that great. Especially since
knowing this guy obviously has spiritual background and
is relying on people who may not have the same outlook on
life as himself.
God and Fornication
If you're taking this long to debate the situation in your
head then it must be somewhat of importance to you. If you
believe in God and the Bible, then you will know that fornication
isn't high on God's "To Do" list.
But let's mention you. It's taking you this long and so
much questions to find an answer. One that you may like
better than the one you are getting possibly. Why not think
about it this way:
If you're wanting sex, that's normal, it doesn't mean you
have to rush into it. Whatever decision you make will be
yours. But maybe sex is something of importance to you and
it would be good to share it with the person you loved.
God and Virgins
I think sex is a gift, and when it comes to virginity,
I think that's a one-time gift and I would wish to give
that to the one person in my life who is going to commit
themselves to me forever. Saving yourself isn't easy these
days and everyone has different religions and morals. Spiritually
and Biblically, God reminds us that it's best to share this
with our husbands/wives, and he prefers us to have only
one, if possible (Divorce happens and death happens.)
Why One Should Share Virginity
So, I figure that sharing such a gift with someone and
recieving it at the same time will probably make sex so
much more enjoyable and fun. You get to experience, learn,
play, and do it all new and fresh with someone who's on
the same level as you. Not to mention that you don't have
to worry about STD's and HIV, or past relationships and
their affects on sex. Or comparing it to someone else. You
can focus all of your attention on that one special person
and they can to you, too. One thing the two of you experienced
together that the first time will never happen again with
anyone and will always be remembered. And I do know that
with women, sex can bring a lot of emotions connecting to
the one she is having sex with most the time.
Pray for the Right Answers, Not Tons of Comments
In the end, it's up to you to decide who and what you're
going to wait for, how you want it to be, and maybe pray
to God for him to show you what he wants instead of asking
people who have tons of comments and might not always have
the right answer to give – even if it's a question
that can be answered 300 different ways.
If you're looking for someone to say sex outside of marriage
is fine, there's someone out there that will say that to
you if that's what you want and need to hear to do the deed
that you want an excuse to do anyway. :)
If not, then read in the Bible about relationships and
sex – see the outcomes and the warnings and the good
parts about saving yourself until marriage, or at least
waiting until you're in love – don't waste it on a
senseless act because you're impatient. You won't explode.
Sex is really easy to do, the hard part is to say "no",
especially when you want to. You'll always have the chance
to have sex – you won't always have the chance to say
"I'm waiting to give myself to that special person
who is going to be in my life and my heart till the end
of time."
Sex Alone
And I'm not saying you will be with that certain one forever,
but I will say that real love and hope to be with this person
forever and to know they're the love or the one for you
is so much better than sex alone, which is really not a
huge deal – everyone can do it (at least most of the
time..hehe).
Hope this helps and is not babbling.
– Sweetlove
Female, age 21, USA
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