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Dear Panel, How do you tell a guy you just want to be friends so that you didn't hurt his feelings? – Hazeleye Female, age 19, Europe |
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If you want to maintain the friendship, I recommend complete honesty. |
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Have sex and then tell him. |
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Dear Panel, Why doesn't he call? – Waiting Female, age 46, Georgia |
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Because he doesn't want to talk to you. |
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Why don't YOU call him? |
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Dear Panel, How can I tell if my girlfriend doesn't like me anymore? – Matt Male, age 17, USA |
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She'll stop calling, and be busy when you want to get together with her. And, she might let you know by starting to see someone else. |
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Or you could ask her. |
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Dear Panel, My boyfriend wants to have sex, but do not want to have it. – GD Female, age 20, India |
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So don't! |
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It's your body, your life, your choice. If you aren't ready, just tell him "No". |
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Dear Panel, How can I tell my boyfriend that it's over without feeling guilty or making him feel bad? – Belinda Female, age 21, England |
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Why must we all try and be the "good guy"? You are dumping him – of course it will hurt him. C'est la vie!! |
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Dear Panel, I like this guy! My friend tried to hook us up, and he said that if he hasn't found a girlfriend by the beginning of the next school year which is in like a week, he would look me up. But I haven't seen any signs of any improvement. – Babyface Female, age 15, California |
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I don't see any signs of improvement, either. |
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You don't want to be someone's back-up – move on. |
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You want someone who is only with you because he's desperate?! |
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Dear Panel, I've met this new girl at work who's been there a month a few weeks after she started. Lately she's been talking to me a lot, touching me, running her fingers in my hair. Do you think it OK to start something with your co-worker? – Josh Male, age 17, Canada |
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I think she's already started something. |
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You're only 17, it won't hurt you any to have a relationship with a co-worker. |
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Just be careful about it. If it's mutual, YES. |
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Dear Panel, I am 16. I love to talk on the phone for hours. My boyfriend Joe went to Alabama with his parents about 5-1/2 months ago. We have been going out for about a year. We talk on the phone all the time but we don't really have long conversations – we just have small chit chat. He does not talk very much unless about Basketball or sex. I love him so much, but we can never find very much to talk about. He is coming up here to Idaho to see me in about a week, and I am afraid we will not talk because we can't find anything to talk about. What should I do?? Should I talk to him about it, or try to fix it on my own? – In Love And Confused Female, age 16, USA
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If you have nothing to talk about, then why are you together? |
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Dear Panel, What are some of the tell tale signs that my long
distance relationship is in trouble? – Aviva Female, Canada |
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When you ask Love & Learn about it. |
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When you don't communicate anymore. |
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Dear Panel, How does a girl attract the opposite sex? – Confused Love Chick Female, age 14, Israel |
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Flirt a lot. |
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Dear Panel, think that my ex-boyfriend's best friend might be as close to my romantic ideal as I will ever get. My ex-boyfriend and I have remained good friends. Seeing the obvious attraction between his best friend and I, he has expressed that it it would deeply bother him if the two of us were to officially date. Should I risk the friendship between both my ex-boyfriend and myself as well as the friendship between my ex-boyfriend and his long time best friend? What if the best friend is the one? – Dunno Female, age 19, USA |
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Ask your ex-boyfriend to define "deeply bother". |
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Sweetie, this is the rest of YOUR life you're talking about. If you KNOW he's the one, go for it! |
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Your ex isn't in a position to tell you who you can and can't date. |
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Dear Panel, I want to have sex with my boyfriend, but actually, I'm scared. Does it hurt much? And can I do something wrong? I mean, what if I'm not good in some things? Or what if he doesn't like what I'm doing? And what if he doesn't like my body? Please, help me, because I really want to have sex. – Angie Female, age 15, Belgium |
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It can hurt, but if you and your boyfriend love each other then you shouldn't worry about doing anything wrong or being not good enough. He is probably just as worried as you. About your body, don't worry – he'll probably love it!! |
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If you're that scared, and asking that many questions, then I don't think you're ready for sex. |
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Dear Panel, About a year ago, I met the sweetest, most wonderful guy ever. He's actually the older brother of a friend of mine. I really really like him, and he really really likes me. We'd love to try and start a relationship, but there's a problem. I'm 17, and he's 21. My parents are so severely against this, but they don't know him at all, and when I offer to have them meet, they say no. I have very high morals, I don't drink, smoke or do drugs, and we won't be having sex unless we get married, whiiich... come on, probably isn't going to happen. I'm a great student in the top 2% of my class of 600, I am very active in my church youth group, OKOK, I just want you to know that I'm an all-round pretty good person. I'm really interested on an outside input on this, as well as if it's legal or not (in PA). I'm pretty sure it is, since I'm over 16. But he's 4 years 4 weeks older than I am. OK, well any advice you have would be greatly appreciated, thank you so much! – Liz Female, age 17, PA, USA |
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Gosh! Unfortunately, you're a bit under your parents' wing until you're 18. How about you stay friends, and when you're 18, start dating him. If you're living with your parents, they might still object, but you can always move out and be as independent as you want to be. |
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Dear Panel, I am 52, she is 59. We met 9 years ago and have been exclusive partners for those 9 years. I have asked her to marry. She has indicated that she would consider. After a spat, she started dating another. She maintains that she is "too old" for me. I don't understand. Should I move one? or pursue? – Squire Male, age 52, Northwest |
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You've been pursuing for a heck of a long time. Now's your chance to find one of those 49-year-old spring chickens. |
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MOVE ON – unless you enjoy humiliation! |
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Dear Panel, My boyfriend is 20 and I'm 17. We live in TX and could not find ANYTHING about the legal sex age. Could you please just clear things up for us and let us know if it is legal or not? It would be GREATLY appreciated. – Just Wondering... Female, age 17, Texas, USA |
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Maybe you should take your hand out of your boyfriend's pants long enough for you to properly type "age consent texas" into any search engine. |
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Dear Panel, I need advice on a current situation. This girl I have liked for a long time and whom I recently (3 weeks) have become extremely in love with says that she cannot date now because of the following reason: Scared, because the relationship would be extremely serious and she doesn't want to hurt me. But this is the same girl who opens up her world to me and shares intimate details about her life and falls comfortably asleep in my arms. Any insight? – KVSF Male, age 22, Boston |
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Yes. Girls, who can figure? |
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Yeah... Easy... She doesn't like you in a "lover" kind of way!! Just be her best friend to keep her in your life, for now! |
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Dear Panel, My ex boyfriend and I are still the best of friends, but we're going to different schools. Even though our relationship is over, we still have very strong feelings for one another. I want to get back together and he's not real sure. He wants me to come up and visit him at school before I leave for my school. I'm afraid that I'll get my feelings hurt, but I really want to go up and see him before I leave. – In Love, But Confused Female, age 21, Oregon |
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You'll just get hurt. |
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Go see him, but don't get your hopes up. |
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Dear Panel, I am just an ordinary, not ugly, average looking clean cut 20-year-old guy. Last year, I met Susan at a singing contest while we were waiting for the contest to begin. She was pretty, thin and just incredible looking. She just happened to sit right next to me and so we started talking. I am not sure why she talked to me, because when the other guys tried talking to her, she ignored them. To make a long story short, I really liked her a lot, but I didn't ask her for her phone number because I had a girlfriend at the time. I wanted to do the right thing. A year later today, I have broken up with my girlfriend. I've signed up for this singing contest again which is coming up really soon. I am very nervous about whether I'll get to see her again. I feel like I am going nuts. I've been having dreams about her every night. What should I do? Am I going crazy? I know whatever will be will be, but it's a lot harder to do then say. What can or should I do if I see her or not see her again? I don't even know her last name, I just don't know any ways that I can contact her. I don't want to be a stalker either, if that's what you have in your mind. After she finished her song, she stood behind me purposely, so close to me that I felt her breasts. Was that an accident, or do you think she felt something for me too? – Luther Male, age 20, England |
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You don't have to worry – you'll never see her again. This isn't a movie and I don't believe in serendipity. |
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Dear Panel, I really really want a boyfriend! I'm soooooo sooooooo lonely! How can I get a guy? I want to be loved!!!! HELP ME BEFORE I GO CRAZY!!!! – GONE CRAZY WITH NO LOVE!!! Female, age 14, Aus |
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Start by not showing prospective boyfriends this obsessive side. |
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