Dear JB,

You're 26, you say you're pretty, warm, and witty, yet you can't figure out why you're still a virgin.

Here are some things you might want to think about:

1. Do others agree with you on your self-description? I'm sure Janet Reno thinks she's pretty, but not everyone would necessarily agree.
1. Is your weight proportional to your height?
2. Is there anything else you aren't telling us? Come on, you know what's relevant.
   
   
2. You say that the men who do date you don't want to have sex with you. Perhaps they don't believe in premarital sex. Or perhaps they don't want to do it right away. Not all of us men want to jump into bed right away, especially if we see you as a potential long-term relationship.
   
   
3. You say you won't have sex until you truly care about the other person. That's a healthy attitude to have. If your goal is to get rid of that pesky virginity, though, it is an impediment. Take a look at what's important to you. I guarantee you, if all you want is to get deflowered, you can march right down to your local bar/meat market and take a guy home. I'm not recommending this, by the way. I get the impression that you would vastly prefer it to mean something to you.
   
   
4. You say getting intimate would ruin a friendship. Is that what the guys say when they are telling you they don't want to become romantically involved with you? Or is that coming from you? If the guys are saying that, that's really a polite way for them to tell you that they're not into you in a romantic way, and they don't want to hurt your feelings.

Ultimately, don't focus on it. If you seem insecure, you won't be seen as attractive.

Go out, be yourself, and have fun. Do the things you like, and be open to meeting new people, especially members of the opposite sex.

And maybe you'll meet the right guy, who will probably feel quite honored that he's your first, at age 26.

Good luck,
– Aaron