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Dear Panel, I've been going out with this guy for a couple of weeks, and I really like him and I think he really likes me. However, I can't stop lusting after this other guy. I feel really guilty. There must be a way I can stop being so fickle, right? I mean, I already feel quite terrible, since I kind of blew off this other guy just after two days for the guy I'm seeing now. Confusing? Yeah, that's the story of my life. – BorderlineNeurotic Female, age 17, Singapore |
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It's not confusing to me. Just make it clear to these guys that you're only using them for a short time. |
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Dear Panel, My boyfriend will not go farther than just talking. How can I get him to go farther romantically? – Farther Female, age 18, USA |
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Respect him, then be glad you have a respectful man. |
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Dear Panel, My boyfriend, Edmond, wants to take it slow because he's not over his ex girlfriend, but he is the one who asked me out! What is his deal and what should I do? – Tammy S Female, age 16, USA |
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He's confused, and you should keep your clothes on. |
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Dear Panel, I am working in a computer company. I am going on a trip at the end of the year. His name is D. We work at the same company. We became closed friends in the past few months. He has a girlfriend, N. We have met. More than once, D has told me that he's not in love with N and that sometimes he really wants to break up with her. However, he's afraid of loneliness and afraid of hurting her feelings. D wants to come to the trip with me. But N is not coming with. Sometimes, I feel there is a mutual liking between D and me, especially when he flirts a bit. Sometimes, I feel I'm just the replacement when she's not around. I want to know where I stand in his heart. But I cannot ask the question because he's is in a relationship right now. I don't want to destroy his relationship, but I do want him to be happy. Sometimes I wonder if he'll ever break off the relationship. How can I find out where I stand in his heart without breaking anything? – Julienne Female, age 23, USA |
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Thank goodness you asked us. You're just a replacement. |
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You don't want a relationship with this waffler. Find someone that is man enough to break up with someone when he feels it isn't working. |
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Go find your own guy! |
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Dear Panel, I have a steady now, and I don't really know how to impress him. I love him truly, but I don't know how to express it to him. What do boys usually want from girls??? – Surferz Female, age 13, Singapore |
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At your age, boys don't really know what they want from girls. But they think they do. |
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What do you THINK 13-year-old boys want from girls? |
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Dear Panel, I broke up with a girl in January and I really broke her heart. However, we spent a lot of time together this summer and had a lot of fun together as friends. I discovered that I had feelings for her all the time. But ever since I've told her how I feel, she's been distant and blows me off regularly. She never calls anymore and never visits. I really want a relationship with her and at least our summer friendship, but don't know what she's thinking. She won't talk to me, so its really hard to gauge what she's thinking. HELP! – Confused in CT Male, age 20, New England |
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I know what she's thinking and I don't even know her. Let's see: "He's a flake...he's going to hurt me again...he's confused...I'm going to find someone else who I like..." |
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You played her – now she's playing you. Get over it. |
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Dear Panel, I wonder how to keep my long-distance relationship hot and spicy. We live in different countries for the time being and I'd really like this to work out! – Marianne Female, age 18, Norway |
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Hot & Spicy? Hmmm...phone sex is good. |
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Send him some microwaveable chili. |
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Dear Panel, My friend and I met this guy earlier this week and we had a pretty good time just hanging out. Before we left he gave me his email address because he lives in a dorm and it'll be harder to get in contact via phone – and besides I didn't really ask for his number. Anyway, he also asked me to send over via email the photos I took that day so I did. The thing is he hasn't replied yet and I know I sound a little desperate, but do you think I should email him again? I like him and all but I don't exactly want to bombard him with emails either. However, at times my email plays up and it has problem sending things as well. So do I email him or wait for a while? – Sara Female, age 16, Australia |
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Email is cheap. Go ahead and spam him. |
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I say, take a hint. |
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Send him one more e-mail just asking him if he got the pics (maybe he didn't), if he doesn't reply then just forget about him. |
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Dear Panel, My boyfriend is four years younger than me and my parents are very negative about our relationship. Should I stop seeing him because he's so much younger than me? – Krisje Female, age 22, Belgium |
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Not if the age difference is the only negative they can find. |
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Depends – are your parents going to live your entire life for you? If it doesn't bother you, stay with him. |
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Dear Panel, I am a 21 (soon to be 22) year old male currently living in Kansas. My girlfriend is 16 (soon to be 17) and currently living in Texas. She will turn 17 within about a month of when I turn 22. We have been together for a few months and have recently started talking about sex. I was just wondering about the laws regarding sex for this situation. I like to obey laws. Can we legally have sex? – Man with the Plan Male, age 21, Kansas |
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And I like to answer easier questions. No, you cannot legally have sex with each other until she turns 17, because the age of consent in Texas is 17, and you are more than three years older than she is. |
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Dear Panel, I'm a 20 year old female and I've never had a boyfriend or anything remotely close. I've never even been on a date or held hands with a guy! I'm shy and I can't seem to help it. Am I doomed to hermitage? Please help! I am applying at a nunnery as we speak. – One Is The Lonliest Female, age 20, USA |
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Try harder. And just a reminder: joining a nunnery won't get you closer to your goal. |
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Dear Panel, I'm quite nice, attractive tall guy. My problem is that though I talk to lots of girls, I still haven't got a girlfriend. And my roompartner who is a bit better than me in looks seems to get any girl he lays his hands on. It's not that I'm jealous or anything , but I too want to get the closest possible distance with every girl I find attractive. By the way, I'm 19 and I'm studying Engineering in Pune. Male, age 19, Pune, India |
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It's not that I'm jealous either, but I also want to get the closest possible distance with every girl. Our fates must be against us.
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Wait it out. Roommate = player. You = what women want, but don't know it yet. |
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Dear Panel, How old do you think you should be to have sex? I think 9 or up. – Ally Female, age 13, Western Hemisphere |
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I think not. |
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I think you're wacko. You're too young to even know how wacko you are, let alone have sex. |
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Wow! Nine? That's a little too young. I think 17 at the earliest. |
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Do it when you're ready – but 9 is way too young! |
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If you think 9 and up is appropriate then I suggest you wait a long long time until you have sex. |
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Nine years old???????? |
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