Dear Panel,

She's at it again. Not only has my girlfriend stolen my good pants, my favorite tshirt, and my varsity jacket, but she's going for my jersey. I need it for the team you know? She says she's going to wear it after the season.

When are you going to help me? You didn't tell me what to do after she stole my pants. Now I'm really in deep. She tells all her friends that i'm the best boyfriend ever because I give her my clothes. Other than that she's a great girlfriend.

– Lord of the Gophers

Male, age 15, Indiana

I'm sure I already had a snappy for this. She's gotta be the best dressed girlfriend. Please, please, please hold onto your underwear.

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Dear Panel,

I strongly suspect my girlfriend is having a fling with someone at her work. I have confronted her about this and she denies it, blaming me for the change in herself over the last 3 months. She shows me no interest any more. She says she still loves me and does not want to break up.

Are there any obvious signs that I can look for in my quest to find the truth?

– Paul

Male, age 29, England

Your girlfriend's lack of interest seems like a pretty
strong sign to me.

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Dear Panel,

I went out with a man three times and realized he wasn't able to give me what I want in a relationship, so I left. But I can't get over him.

Why is my heart not in synch with my mind? Why do I love what is not good for me?

– Daph

Female, age 39, Isreal

Probably the same reason I eat all the chocolate chip cookies within reach.

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Dear Panel,

I am currently going after a gal. On two occasions we planned to take leave together to go for a holiday. However, I was played out on both occasions because she had things to do.

I ended up staying at home while she went to do her things. We went out several times, however, now I feel there is no point. When I ask her out a few days in advance, she cancels the date with me at the last minute. Then she feels sad when I do not call her up.

Maybe it is her character that causes her to do things last minute. Is falling in love is a terrible thing for you people out there? I do not want to give up on going after her.

I sent her flowers and things to cheer her up, and she knows that I like her. Should love be this way? Should I give up on her? I am getting tired and hurt. Should love make you tired and hurt?

– Lawrence

Male, age 23, Asia

No. LOVE should make you feel like flying. If it
doesn't, then it is not worth it.

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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now, and I call him whenever I get a chance. But sometimes when I call him it seems as if he doesn't want to talk.

He says, "well let me call you back", but then he never calls. It is weird because when we first started going out we would talk for like 2 hours a night. Now we hardly ever talk. I don't know if he does not want to talk or if he just feels like there is nothing to talk about.

What do you think?

– Michelle

Female, age 19, U.S.

I think he feels all the important stuff has been covered and now just wants to hang out and talk randomly like other friends. It sucks, but it could be true.

Talk, talk, talk! Is that all people want to do nowadays? Go make out or something!

Are you calling him when his favorite TV show is on?

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Dear Panel,

Is it normal to have access to one another's email and to read each other's mail?

Female, age 42, USA

I'll ask my boss.

Absolutely, if invading another's privacy is normal. Otherwise, NO.

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Dear Panel,

We reside in Texas and my sixteen-year old daughter is having sex with her eighteen-year old boyfriend. I discovered this by reading an entry in her spiral notebook.

When I confronted the boy in front of her, he told me that he checked with a police officer and that he cannot be prosecuted because she is consenting. He will be 19 next month and she will be 17 in Janaury.

Is he right? And if I do nothing about this, will it become impossible to do anything after she turns 17?

Thanks

– Concerned Parent

Female, age 43, Texas

Take a step back and consider the background morals which you instilled in your daughter. Is she going to listen to you when she turns 17? How about 18?

Talk with your daughter and see if she can understand your feelings and qualms about what she is doing.

I don't know the law. I do know this. 16, or 17 - she's not yours to
control. The ONLY thing that's in your control now is your relationship with a daughter whose decisions and privacy you seem not to respect. Start there, and start now.

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Dear Panel,

There's this guy in my college Spanish class that is muy caliente! The first moment I saw him I knew we'd have to be wed. I'm already picking out our dream house with a white picket fence (I've barely spoken to him, by the way, but I'm sure he'll agree to it).

There's just one problem--a ring on his ring finger. Should I be concerned? Please tell me it's probably just a coincidence. Is our future together just a reverie?

– Azul

Female, age 20, Midwest, USA

Nope, go for it. What could go wrong?

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Dear Panel,

I moved in with my boyfriend of 2 years who has two teenage sons who live with him. I am 30 - he is 45. His ex-wife, who he has been divorced from for 8 years, lives out of state and visits occasionally.

We were discussing our sexual fantasies two weeks ago and I asked him if he ever thinks of his former wife in a sexual manner. He admitted that she enters his thoughts occasionally when he is having sex with me - that she is there peripherally - but I am his main focus.

Now I think about this every time we have sex and it ruins the mood for me. He says he is not in love with her and not attracted to her, but I am having a hard time accepting his ability to bring her into our intimate life.

I would like your opinion on this.

– Stuck With the Truth

Female, age 30, Midwest, USA

My opinion is stop asking stupid questions.

Don't ask the question if you can't handle the answer. There isn't much you can do now except suck it up and remember this before you ask questions that might not have the answers you want to hear.

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Dear Panel,

I desperately need a girlfriend but I am unable to find one. Can you kindly suggest to me how I can attract girls.

– Suresh

Male, age 24, India

Make sure you look under rocks. Also in normal places.

The harder you look for girls, the harder it gets to actually find
one. Just relax and be yourself.

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Dear Panel,

I've only just went out with my bird. I want her to like me more. She likes me a lot, but I want her to like me even more.

– Sam

Male, age 11, UK

Try going out with her again. She may grow to like you more. But remember... unless you can cast spells you can't make her like you any amount.

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How about a cute joke, like "Come here often"?

Thank goodness I can help you because I've taken Spanish classes for several years. Next time at the bus stop, turn to her and say, "Hola! Me llamo Daniel!"

Just look at her for a while longer--she'll be sure to approach YOU.

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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend and I fight about a lot of things. Should we be together? We have a kid.

– Crystal

Female, age 18, USA

Well, if things aren't going well now, how likely are
they to improve? It might be in the best interests of
your child not to grow up with two parents who are
constantly fighting...

Depends on how well you fight. All couples fight. Those who have kids should try to give them the best life possible. Are you doing that?

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Dear Panel,

I'm 25 and I'm studying in another country. And my boyfriend is living in my home town. I left my country a half year ago. And we broke up by that time (in a very stupid way).

Before I left, I totally didn't tell him I was going to leave. We had a big fight (about some other things), and we broke up. He did call me after I left the
country. But I was gone.

And then, he went out with my friend. OK, they went out for 3 weeks. OK, after half a year, I went back to my home town, and he tried to find me and we got back together.

But the problem is with me. I alway think of sooo many bad things, like how he
went out with my friend...or that he is not the one! And recently, we had a fight. He blamed me for misunderstanding him. I think that he is taking advantgage of his clients (old women with money).

And now he stopped calling me. I think our relationship is over right here. But I still miss him. I don't know what to do. We did have a good time together, but after we'd been back toghether a week, we fought every day...ok, I started the fight every single time. And now he doesn't have patience with me anymore.

– Pig

Female, age 25, Japan

Are there any other men in your home town?

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Sorry, that's the last question.

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