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Dear Panel, I am 15 years old and I have been dating an 18 year old for about nine months. He just turned 19 in October. I am in love with him. Although I am only 15, almost 16, I know that I love him. I would die for him. I would do anything so that he would never have to feel any type of pain. And he loves me also. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. The only thing stoppping us is our age. It is not fair. I have had sex with him, but only out of love, not because he forced me too. It shoiuld not be considered rape. In Wisconsin what are the laws about statutory rape? I don't find it fair that we can get in trouble for sharing how we feel for each other in an intimate way! – Kim Female, age 15, USA |
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If you are talking the rest of your life, what's the big deal about waiting a couple of years. |
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Please read romantic novels for the next 3 years, and at least you'll be somewhat more ready for your extreme love. Because of the 3 years, I mean. |
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Dear Panel, I am 32, highly-educated with a stable
job and I'm pretty. My problem is that I dont have a boyfriend.
When I was in 20, I was always asked to go out but most of the time
I refused. I had a boyfriend when I was in college. I liked his looks
but he was not my ideal guy to marry. I know what type of guy I am
looking for to marry (smart, talented, gentle, succesful at work and
rich). In my company, I have found many good guys but they are married. I do want to marry someday. I feel that I'll be single forever if I stay with my perfectionism. Do I have to reduce my success criteria so I can be in relationship more easily? Or should I just wait and see if Mr.Right appears? Thank you. – Boly Female, age 32, Singapore |
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Start reducing. |
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Dear Panel, Is it good when two lovers always
see with each other, as in everyday? – Mikki Male, age 23, Philippines |
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Better than if they never see each other. |
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Dear Panel, My girlfriend lives about 30 miles away from my home,so we don't see each other often. What can I do to see her more often and kiss her? – Angel Male, age 15, Belgium |
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Take a train or the bus. The more you see her, the easier it will be to find time to kiss her. |
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Dear Panel, Hello! I sent this message a few weeks ago, but there was no response. I guess I will give it another try. Alright, where do I start?
I was intimate with one of them, and
found out he was married afterward. I was grossed out, but he wanted
to continue the relationship. They are all really persistant, and
it makes me wonder if Im a married man magnet. So, my question is...why do I only attract married men? Is there something about a female that invites them? If so, how can it be changed? – Help! Female, age 30, Illinois |
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When you meet a man you find attractive, have this conversation:
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First, you need to learn to say "no" more firmly. Most
men will take "no" if they believe you mean it. |
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I wonder, how does one not take "no" for an answer? Is it because a "yes" follows? Try following with another "no", an elbow, and then a bit of profanity. I'll bet it works. Oh yeah, try going to "single" functions to meet single men. Duh. |
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Dear Panel, There's this guy at work that I REALLY
like. I think he likes me too. He always looks at me from across the
room and smiles and even deliberately takes his breaks with me. Thing
is, he's got a girlfriend. What to I do? Female, age 17, UK |
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Flash him a nice big smile until after he loses the girlfriend. Then you can flash more. |
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It would be best if you ignored it, he's just a flirt. |
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Dear Panel, My girlfriend and I have been going strong for six months now. We have had our share of little spats, but we were convinced we love each other. I was over at her house one day when her mother came and saw us. We weren't doing anything but her mother suspected too much. My girlfriend and her mother had a long talk and she called me that night and ended it. She said that the timing wasn't right for us and that she couldn't handle it. I don't understand beacause just before
her mother walked in, she was telling me how much she loved me and
that she couldn't picture her life with out me. Do you think she really
means it and that it's over? Should I try to get over her? I love
her so much and it just hurts so much... Thanks. – Hurting Male, age 19, California |
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If she changed that suddenly because of a talk with her mom, she is probably not mature enough to handle a serious relationship with you now anyways. |
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Dear Panel, What do I do? How do I overcome the fact that my fiance cheated on me? – c.p. Female, age 22, USA
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Get a new fiance? |
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Unengage yourself. |
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Get a new one. |
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Dear Panel, How can you tell if a boy likes you? – Babe101 Female, age 14, North America |
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Duh! Maybe when he flirts, talks a lot and continues to gawk over you! Or he might even just say it! |
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Dear Panel, I've been going out with this girl for about two months now. I think I really love her and would like to marry her in the future. Only problem is, I keep picturing her with her ex's. I was a virgin till now, she had lost her's already and it's really disturbing. She tells me things they've done in the past and I keep seeing them, NOT ME. I don't know why I dwell on her past so much. It hurts me to know that these two guys she's been with messed around with her so much after all she's been through with her family. Basically, I think I'm jealous of the fact that these two ex's got to her before I did. What do I do? Am I overreacting? Is there something wrong with me? – Clubber Male, age 20, USA |
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Nope, what could be wrong with you? All you need to do is dump her, and find some nice virgin who's never had a life before you. |
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I don't know how you should do it, but you need to get over this somehow. Yes, you're overreacting. Yes, there's something wrong with you. Every single person you meet has a past. There's always stuff in people's past. If you like the present, and imagine you will like the future, that ought to be enough. |
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For some reason you're placing to much on her past. Concentrate more on your future together, and don't let her past become something that ruins your relationship. |
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Dear Panel, If the girl is shy, should I make a firt step by kissing her or giving her a compliment? – D.D Male, age 26, Balkan |
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Ask her very sweetly if you can kiss her. |
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Dear Panel, I started dating this guy two months ago. Everything was great! His
mother and sister were also in another state for the summer. Now that
they are back, I feel like I am in competition with his mother for
his time. No, he doesn't still live at home and yes his father has passed away. His mother is just lonely and codependant. I understand family is really important but this situation with his mother is really extreme. Besides telling the guy that the situation bothers me, is there anything I can do? Is it worth dating someone like this? – Tatianna Female, age 30, US |
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No and no. It's only worth it if he sets some boundaries with her. Until then, run! |
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Turn off his cell phone when you go on dates. |
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UGH!! I feel your pain and know it well as I have the same issue
with my boyfriend's mother. My advice is to first ask your man whether
his mother's neediness bothers him, explain your feelings and ask
him to have a heart to heart discussion with Mommy Dearest. By no
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Dear Panel, Does the feeling that there may always be someone better for me out there ever go away? My expectations seem very high, but I know that I deserve the best! Will I ever find someone who measures up? – Jenny Female, age 21, USA |
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Reality never measures up to your fantasies. Just look for someone you can live with and be happy with. |
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Yes. Wait a minute...what was your question again?? |
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Dear Panel, When you first start 'seeing a guy' should you wait for his reply to every email or phone call before emailing or calling again? – Lisabet Female, age 18, London |
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Nah, if you have something to say then say it. |
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Don't be pushy, but keep in touch. |
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Dear Panel, I have a girlfriend, and I want to kiss her soon. But she is grounded, because of a teacher. When should I kiss her? – Richard Male, age 13 |
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What does being grounded because of a teacher have to do with kissing? |
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Dear Panel, Why do I (19 year old girl) attract always much older (28-32) guys? – Kaylie Female, age 19, Netherlands |
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Because the guys over 32 are afraid of you. |
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