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Dear Panel, I have a girlfriend. I love her very much, she loves me too. But sometimes she tells me stuff about breaking up as if she don't care about our relationship. And the next moment she tells me she loves me very much. I don't understand her, so tell me about this situation. – Eagle Male, age 22, Asia |
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Well, now I have learned something. It's not just American |
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Dear Panel, How do I say "no" to my best
friend who asked me out? I don't want to be rude when I tell him. – Tessa Female, age 15, United States |
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Say "I think it would be bad for our friendship to start dating. I've heard about too many good friendships that got messed up that way, and I value ours too much to want to risk it. Let's just stay friends, okay?" |
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Dear Panel, Is it possible to trust a guy/girl if they are living with someone of the opposite sex? He claims that they are long time friends, and bought a house together as a business transaction. They live together for financial reasons. I love my boyfriend, but I'm slowly losing my trust for him, because of this situation. – NB Female, age 21, New York |
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Is it a one-bedroom house?
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You're overreacting. People of different sexes share houses and apartments all the time. |
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Dear Panel, I am a 20-year-old virgin that has met someone I am ready to have sex with. However, he does not know I am a virgin. Will this be obvious to him the first time we have sex? How can I seem experienced? (He thinks I am and I don't want to let him down!) Please help! I will be seeing him next week! – Confused in KY Female, age 20, United States |
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Whenever you think your inexperience is showing, ask in a real little cutesy girl voice, "What do you want to do next?" |
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There isn't a way to seem experienced. It's gonna hurt the first time, and there's no way to get around that. |
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Being a virgin should make him want you even more. |
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Hopefully you have pre-broken your hymen. That's usually a telltale sign. |
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Dear Panel, I am a 25-year-old male. For a long time I was too intimidated to approach women and, consequently, have had no relationships. I have overcome my shyness with the opposite sex to a degree, but now I am left with another problem. Basically, I am a 25-year-old virgin. As I see it, no woman could ever want such a man, as there must clearly be something wrong with him. Thus, I can never risk taking anything further than flirting. Do you think it is possible that a woman could want a man who is still a virgin at my age, or am I now destined to be alone for the rest of my life? Yours ashamedly, Male, age 25, UK |
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You have nothing to be ashamed of. Except that you succumb to the propaganda of popular "stud" culture. Of course there are women who would want a man who's a virgin... sex is something you pick up quickly anyway, so no big deal. |
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Do this: find a really hot, cute, cool, super religious girl and
tell her that you were waiting to give yourself up to your first love!
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In the year 2002, where male/female gender roles have blurred, I am certain that many women would be honored to know that she is your first. Just don't hold it against her if you are not hers. |
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Dear Panel, My wife doesn't talk to me and to have
sex I have to almost take it by force. I want to look for another
relationship because I need love. But I feel bad about leaving my
wife because I am her main economic support. – Guilty Feeling Male, age 38, California |
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Look up the word "love" in a dictionary. Then seek some counseling. |
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She may not talk but does she listen? Tell her you're leaving and then go. Do NOT force sex. Do NOT have an affair. Do NOT stay for guilt. Just go. Go soon. |
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Another relationship could mean divorce. Don't worry about her economic support, she'll get half of what you've got. |
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Dear Panel, Hi. I am 12-years-old and on Saturday I went to the movies with some friends and a guy I really like. He wanted to make out with me and I got scared but I was wondering if I should or if I shouldn't have. – Unknown Female, age 12, United States
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If it scares you, don't do it. Trust your instincts, you wise almost-woman, you. |
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You don't have to make out with him even if you're 12. Or if you're 21. |
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Dear Panel, I have a problem. I hooked up with this boy that lives down the hall from me in my apartment complex. A couple of days later he came over and watched a movie and we ended up kissing and he was really sweet. It's been 3 months and we haven't really hung out since, but of course I still run into him. I really like him, but I can't read him . What can I do? – PSU Female, age 20, USA |
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He's probably not interested, but just to make sure, invite him over to watch "Lethal Weapon", eat popcorn, and have some brewskis. If he resists, than he's REALLY not interested. |
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Dear Panel, I want to take this girl Sonia to bed. What is the best way to seduce her? – Carl Max Male, age 27, India |
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Maybe you should try honesty. It sounds like you have plenty. |
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Dear Panel, How does one get pregnant? – SSR Female, age 18, Indonesia |
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It's easy. You should be asking how one takes responsibility for a baby. |
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Dear Panel, Hi there! A friend of mine is in love with D, but he has a girlfriend (it's not going that well between them). D told me that he wasn't in love with my friend, in the meanwhile he was giving me compliments all the time, and starting conversations with me. My other friends say that D likes me, and I think I like him too. But what about my friend, who's really obsessed with the guy? And what about his girlfriend? Should I tell him about my feelings? Please help me. – Tina Female, age 18, Belgium |
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D HAS TWO HOS', don't make it three. |
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This guy sounds like he has too many girls waiting in line for him, and I feel terribly sorry for his girlfriend. Find someone who is available, and advise your friend to do the same. |
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Dear Panel, I just got out of a 4 year relationship. I've met a new guy. I really like him. He used to call everyday until our first real date. Now that I phone him just as much, he doesn't call me. What's going on? Should I ease up? – Huh? Female, age 22, Canada |
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Have you made it to the second date yet? |
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He asked you out on a date to figure out if you were worth pursuing. He figured it out. By the way, his name wasn't Ali Wasati, was it? |
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Dear Panel, I like a girl and she is perfect, but I can't see myself kissing her. It would feel weird. Can you tell me why? – Ali Wasati Male, age 18, UK |
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She wasn't a 22-year-old from Canada, was she? |
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Dear Panel, Why am I ugly? – Anon Female, age 14, England |
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Because that's how God made you, move on and forget about it. |
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I bet you're not. Question is, why do you think you are? Consider getting a better haircut. |
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Dear Panel, I am in love. I want to marry him, but he has many other relationships. They are calling him, and he calls them too. I want to push him to be with me only. How can I please him and attract him? By the way, he is very sexy and I don't want to make it with him before marriage. I want him to neglect the others. How can I be his only lover? I want him, I love him. He asks me all time to push him. – Amal Female, age 30, Egypt |
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You cannot make him neglect the others and want you only, he must decide to do that on his own. |
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Dear Panel, My boyfriend broke up with me. Well, he never say the word "break" but just say that we should be friends. Now he says that he still loves me and wants me to celebrate his birthday with him and celebrate our anniversary together. I am confused whether he still want me or not. – S.S. Female, age 23, Singapore |
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Tell him that being "friends" means that you don't have to love him. Or celebrate any more anniversaries. |
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Dear Panel, Last night I slipped and said that "I loved her" way too soon. We have been seeing each other for a month, and it is great but I don't love her. I am still trying to see if we really get along. She didn't react -- other than a smile. I'd like to take it back - call it a mulligan - but it is too late. Damage done - what can I do? – JB Male, age 23, USA |
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Dear Panel, Should I still be seeing my ex-boyfriend? I still love him but I'm not quite sure if he would change as he promised. – Gurl Female, age 22, Philippines
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They never change, even with "promises." Two words: move on!! |
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You made the right choice the first time. Keep him your ex. |
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It's amazing how we guys will tell a girl almost anything for sex. And even more amazing is that the girls tend to believe it. |
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