Dear Panel,

I don't like "nice" guys. I like childish guys who'll smile and call me a bitch. I want a guy that my mother will hate. Most girls want nice guys and can't find them, I can't find anything BUT them. Nice guys are just too boring.

– Sick Of Being Treated Like A Lady

Female, age 20, UK

bitch. :)

Here I am!

No. Most girls don't want nice guys. Most girls say they want nice guys while secretly they drool over the vapid, rich, shallow, could-be-a-model, bitch slapping stoner. Nice guys get the shaft already and we don't really need people like you saying again that we're not needed.

Why don't you go get that guy who your mother will hate and your "nice guy" buddies will get beat up by. Yeah, that sounds like a great plan. Maybe then you can write us about how he went and cheated on you with some "nice girl" down the street and how you wish you can have a nice guy who will treat you right and NOT cheat on you.

So your question is what?

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Dear Panel,

I've been seeing this guy for about a month now. Things are going well, but he's moving across the country for work in 8 months. We've been friends for years, and I really care about him and would like to keep the relationship going.

I'd be willing to try long distance or even move (I've been wanting to move to that part of the country for some time already). When and how should I bring up the future with him?

– Anonymous

Female, age 27

Wait 3 months, and say, "You'll be moving in 5 months. Where do you see me living then?"

Completely express your feelings when you feel the closest to him. I recommend ASAP, so you know where your relationship stands.

Sooner rather than later. Do it over dinner. Ask questions and raise possibilities, don't make demands. And don't pack yet.

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Dear Panel,

I'm 15 and I'm "dating" a 20-year-old, soon to be 21. I know that what we do together couldn't be considered statutory rape. But he's really cautious about it all and wants to keep it a secret.

My question is, can he get in trouble for going out with me or dating me? I really just want to make him more comfortable and open about us because I really like him.

– Julia

Female, age 15, Northeast

Girl, you're only 15. He'll get busted. I say stop.

I think JAIL would make anyone uncomfortable.

Let's see...he wants to keep the relationship a secret and you want it in the open. Do you see any problems with this at all?

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Dear Panel,

I've been friends with this guy for about 6 years and there's been times when I've had feelings for him (more then friends). I never acted on them because most of the time he was dating one of my friends.

On New Year's Eve I had a party and of course he came over. We're always "play fighting" but that night was the first time it ever went further. We ended up fooling around! He's already told me that he's not looking for a relationship and he said that things won't get weird.

Now I'm not sure how to act around him or what I should think of what happened! Do you think that he's interested in me or was it just a one time thing? Should I tell my friend that he used to date what happened?

– Confused and Worried

Female, age 17, Minnesota

He told you that he's not interested in a relationship. Why not pretend that nothing happened. It doesn't look like it did for him.

If he was interested, he probably wouldn't have said he didn't want to date. It's best that your friend hears this from you, instead of someone else. She might not take it too well depending on how she still feels about him.

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Dear Panel,

How do I make my ex-girlfriend's best friend go out with me? She's worried about hurting her friend.

Male, age 13, North America

You don't!

Usually you don't "make" girls do anything they don't want to do.
Especially in this case.

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Dear Panel,

I met a guy a few months ago that I was really attracted to. He was also attracted to me and things were going very well. After three weeks of knowing each other we had sex and now everything has changed.

I really think he is a good guy and I don't want to lose him because of this. I have tried telling him how I feel but I seem to be getting me nowhere. He is leaving soon and we won't be able to see or talk to each other for at least six months. I would like to work things out before he leaves but I don't know what to say or do.

Please give me some hope. Do you think there is any way we could start over and ever have a relationship?

– Frustrated

Female, age 20, USA

well..........no.

If he wants to dump you after having sex, probably not.

Sex changes everything, let this be a lesson to you.

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Dear Panel,

When will you update the site?

– Curly Man

Male, age 22, South Africa

I think what you really mean is "Alicia hasn't told us anything juicy since she broke up with Jake".

Don't worry, my revised profile will be written soon and you'll hear all the fabulous details of my new love. Do you think you're ready?

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Dear Panel,

I recently moved away from where I used to live. Therefore, I am also away from the guy I was seeing for a few months while I was at the old place. At first we called each other almost everyday. All of sudden, he stopped calling me so I also stopped calling him.

Once in a while, he sends me an e-mail asking how I am doing, so I reply. But in the last e-mail, I was sort of sensing that he's no longer interested in me. I didn't reply.

About a week ago, he called me and said that he would be in town and would like to go to a movie and dinner with me. I told him that's fine and we made the plan.

However, on that day, he was unable to get out of work early enough to drive to my house in time to go to the movie and diner. When he arrived to my house it was 9:30pm. We ended up having sex. He took off a few hours later to head to his brother's house which is a couple of hours away. We agreed that before he left town, he could come up and see me again, but it never happened.

I am so confused. I'm not sure if he's still interested in me or just wanted sex.

– Anonymous

Female, age 29

Both. He is still interested in you...for sex.

He wanted to say hello. And to have sex. He probably likes keeping in contact.

He just wanted sex. And he got it.

He just wanted sex and some comfort. He's not interested in a relationship with you. It sounds like you're not that interested in him, either. Why not find someone in your new city?

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Dear Panel,

I am 52-years-old and having sex with a 16-year-old in Maryland.

What could happen?

– Older Man

Male, age 52

How does jail sound, you sick, ignorant pervert?

Nothing. By the way, if you wouldn't mind, would you send this e-mail to your local police station?

Many things could happen, even in Maryland, none of them good. By the way, do you love this girl who is young enough to be your granddaughter?

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Dear Panel,

There is this boy, he is a senior and I am a junior. We have Latin together, and have for 2 years straight, everyday. The class is small, so we get to talk a lot.

He is the captain of the football team and plays baseball, and has the best personality. He is not the typical ignorant jock. We tell each other everything, and he tells me he is looking for a nice girlfriend. He has only had 2 girlfriends and is a virgin, which was shocking to me.

Recently he has been sending signals to me and has been asking me to hang out, but we never end up hanging out. He is not flirty with just me though, so I can't tell if he likes me or not.

I am in love with this boy and I want a relationship with him, but how will it start?

– Michaela

Female, age 16, United States

Try acting flirty.

Ask him out! Do it in Latin!

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Do you put too much pressure on them? Make sure that they are aware of what you are looking for from the beginning.

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Dear Panel,

I am 21-years-old and have been in a relationship with the love of my life for almost two years now. We have been living together for the last 7 months, so we know that we are very compatible.

The only problem is, he is active military and just got orders to Germany for 2 years. I could just get married to him and go over there with him, but the problem with that is I wouldn't be able to get the rest of my education finished. I just finished my AA degree and I am planning on getting my BA. I would check into schools overseas, but my college is already prepaid in Florida, limiting my options as to where I can go to school.

Do you think a relationship could survive for 2 years while only being able to see each other once or twice a year? We were in a long distance relationship earlier on and we both know how hard it is only being able to see each other every other weekend.

He says that he wants to be with me no matter what, and that we can work through this. Most of me agrees with him, but there is that doubt in the back of my mind saying that 2 years is way too long. What do you think?

– Mel

Female, age 21, Fort Walton Beach

I think that the next 2 years will be tough. But you could do it. Good luck.

If you're already doubting, you don't have a chance.

Go for it.

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Dear Panel,

I'm a 22-year-old and my boy friend is 25. He told me yesterday that he won't be able to marry me until he is financial capable. Is he really loving me, or he is trying to tell me that he won't marry me?

– NK

Female, age 22, Africa

How much money does he have now?

If everything else feels right, he probably loves you.

He may really not feel right marrying you until he is financially ready. That could be a good, honorable thing. Or he's just afraid of marriage and using money as an excuse.

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Dear Panel,

I just started dating this guy a few weeks ago. He is a big drinker. I told him that we could date if he could slow down on his drinking.

That lasted two days, then he went back to being his usual self again. He told me that I need to get mad at him when he does drink a beer, because I usually don't say anything. He told me that he has a problem and he doesn't know how to quit.

What should I do about my boyfriend and him being an alcoholic?

– Tat-Tiana

Female, age 17, United States

Tell him that you DO know how to quit having an alcoholic boyfriend. Then say "good-bye".

Very quickly make him your ex-boyfriend. About all you can do for him is go with him to his first AA meeting.

Nobody should have to put up with an alcoholic, he needs get help or make some sort of effort to change his ways.

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Dear Panel,

I have a big problem that keeps me bugging every night. I have a friend and I have a huge crush on him.

I suffered a lot because of him. I was always crying, because he had a girlfriend. Now they have split up,and he told my friends that he want to court me. So I'm waiting, but he hasn't said anything to me.

What should I do? What I'm hearing is not jiving with what's happening. Help!

– Angel

Female, age 18, Philippines

Try acting flirty.

Try asking him on a date...it might help the situation.

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Dear Panel,

I want to have a three-way with my wife and another guy. Is this common?

– Anonymous

Male, age 40, United States

You mean you haven't done that yet? Don't forget the condoms.

A three-way? You mean light bulbs? No, that's not uncommon. But why do you need another guy to help you and your wife screw it in?

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