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| Dear Panel, I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years and I think I want her back and I'm not sure what to do. I've kissed others since, it was a mutual break up and we've stayed friends. She says she's fond. But I think that maybe if we gave it another go that maybe it would work. But since we broke up I think she feels liberated. What the hell is wrong with me? – Anon Male, age 20 |
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Well, you're a guy... but that's okay. Mostly you're just normal. Life has ups and downs. Enjoy the ride. |
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Sounds like you both have "Cake-And-Eat-It-Too" syndrome...you're perfect for each other. |
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Simple, ask for another chance! If she loves you, she'll take you back. |
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You broke up for a reason...to date other people. |
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| Dear Panel, He tells me I'm beautiful, so why does he need to look at pictures of naked women? – Lucky In Love Female, age 23, Australia |
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One woman is enough for the heart, but never enough for the eyes! |
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The sun will rise and men will look at naked pictures of women! |
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| Dear Panel, Are mens are more sensitive or womans? I can't tell. – Waseem Male, age 24 |
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If you just treat women like they're more sensitive, I think you'll be doing good. |
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| Dear Panel, Everything was going right but one day when I called her she just replied "don't ever call me again and don't ask me the reason for this behaviour". Actually she is already engaged and I love her. She just become my friend on the condition that I will never think about her in that way, but I still love her and she also knows this from my behaviour with her, but we both are having a very good understanding among us. I can't live without her but whenever I call her she just puts down the receiver. – HaanjiMale, age 19, India |
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You should probably take the hint and leave her alone.
Try finding yourself someone who is not engaged. |
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| Dear Panel, Will Gigi, the girl I love, ever ask me out? I just love Gigi so much. – Chance Male, age 13, USA |
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Don't think so buddy. Most girls think the guy should do the
asking out. |
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Ask her out first. |
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| Dear Panel, I love ONE girl recently 5 years. I have never kiss her! Actually I didn't try to say than I love her! Now she is always with her boyfriend and I can't just stop her and say I love you. So what do you say about this? First year I can't tell her then I love her because I don't have brave. IN SCHOOL SHE TOLD TO ME THEN SHE LOVE ME AND I DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING (this is the biggest mistake in my live), I was very shame. But after two years in summer holiday I have brave.Then I try to find her and I saw her with her new boyfriend. Then I go home and just I use to cry every night. Now is fifth year and I still love her. She is the one. She is the only girl in the world who impress me with her beauty, her mind etc. Every day I think about her, all day. I think that 5 years are too much. Nobody is like me. There is only one girl in the world. I don't know her number but I know where she lives. – Npop Male, age 19, Macedonia |
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Tell her how you feel...what else do you have to lose, besides another 5 years... |
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| Dear Panel, Is it possible for an older girl and a younger guy? I'm 16 and this girl I know is 21(I don't even drive,she does). She flirts with me but I'm not sure if she likes me. – J-lin Male, age 16, USA |
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If she flirts, she likes. Maybe she'll even drive
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She's messing with you don't get head over heels. |
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| Dear Panel, I have been secretly dating my girlfriend for over a year. We had to keep it a secret because she is 17 and I am 20 and her parents said that I was too old and forbid us to see each other. But we were so in love that we snuck around behind their back. We planned to get married when she turns 18. I already bought the land to build our house, we went together to buy furniture and decorations for the house and everything. Now, all of a sudden she breaks up with me because she said she doesn't want to lie to her parents anymore and that it has become too stressful on her to hide us for this long. – Hopelessly Stupid Male, age 20, USA |
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You are too young and inexperienced to say you love
someone that much (I am your age, so I am not putting you down). Realize
she maybe has some growing up to do and experiences to have, and you
probably do to. I would find out the truth, and move on if it is true.
As hard as it may sound. |
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Get rid of her and go for someone your own age. Three years is a big difference in maturity. |
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Is there any way you can possibly focus on anything
else in your life other than an obsession with this girl who lives
with her parents? At least until she's 18 and she can find another
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| Dear Panel, I like a 18-year-old boy how can I make him like me? – Amy Female, age 13, USA |
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Practice on 13-year-old boys to get ready for him. |
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Sorry sweetheart, you can't. Move on. |
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| Dear Panel, I've been trying to write my own book, because I am a extremely good writer (or so I'm told by some friends). Now that I'm almost ready to submit my book to a publisher, everybody has been discouraging me, and sadly enough, the one I love most has been telling me that they won't accept my book Because of this blatant put down, I don't know what to think about her anymore. She hurt me, I still love her ...so do you think I should forgive her? – The Hurricane Male, age 19, USA |
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Maybe she's not the most tactful person, but telling you her opinion, and being truthful shouldn't count against her. She can love you a lot and still not think your book is publishable. Should you forgive her for loving you enough to tell you the truth? |
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| Dear Panel, What happens when you like your boyfriend's best friend? – Clair Female, age 14, Canada |
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First you get really confused, then you figure out
what to do about it, and you either end up hurting someone, or not. |
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Don't do that...lots of problems. |
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| Dear Panel, How do I earn my girlfriend's trust back? A few weeks ago, my relationship was not going so great with my girlfriend. My best friend (a girl) and I were videochatting one night, and eventually started playing a game that ended up with us getting naked. Later, this happened once more. Note that there is no romantic attachment between us. After the second time, I realized exactly the implications of what I was doing, how much I really loved my girlfriend, and I mentally put a stop to it. Yesterday, my girlfriend and I, our relationship now working really well, got into a conversation, and she asked me if I had ever done anything like I mentioned above. Of course, I had to tell her the truth: anything less would be wrong. I am now feeling completely horrible, like a jerk, dork, $%#-hole, etc. I am scared of losing my girlfriend, but feel that she should dump me. But I desperately don't want her to. – Jaz Male, age 18, Canada |
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You seem honestly sorry, but sometimes it may not be enough. |
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Learn to lie. |
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You explain to her about the raging testosterone levels in your body, and convince her that you can't help it. |
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You have to deal with the consequences of your actions. |
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| Dear Panel, I sort of like the look of this girl but I do not want to couple up with her. I just want both of us to love each other. I notice she is not talking much to me. Should I talk more to her or should I shut up? – Johnathan Male, age 14, Asia |
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Shut up. |
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| Dear Panel, I meet lots of new guys but now have a new boyfriend. We get on really well and have been going out about a month, but I feel that he is going off me! It always happens after 1 month whoever I'm with and we usually split! What am I doing wrong and how can I capture his interest? I received a chain letter 3 years ago saying that I would have every relationships lasting only 1 month for the next 7 years and for the past 3 it has been true! I know it sounds stupid and I may just be paranoid but I really feel my new boyfriend is going off me. He never calls me and only wants us to meet once a week. – Haylesx Female, age 17, England |
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DON'T SEND ME THAT CHAIN LETTER!!! |
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You have a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are afraid the relationship will only last a month, so you act in a way that assures that will happen. |
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Well, maybe you are expecting too much after a month. What exactly DO you want? Kids? After a month, getting serious really isn't the priority. Just chill out and get to know each other a bit. If you nag at him and persist to see him all the time then he will sense you to be a controlling type and most likely will go off you! Relax! |
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| Dear Panel, My boyfriend snogged my best friend! We all went out on friday night and my friend got drunk but my boyfriend didn't but he still went behind my back and kissed her and felt her up. They thought I couldn't see them but I could and then on the Sunday he dumped me and said "I am not dumping you for your mate, the relationship isn't going right." But I didn't believe him. – Tasha Female, age 17, England |
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Gee, what a bad weekend! Better luck next week. |
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What exactly is your question? You are lucky you aren't in the relationship anymore, I suggest you also dump your friend. Neither of them are worth knowing. |
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| Dear Panel, Should I still have sex when ever he wants? Sometimes he even gets mad at me when I don't want to have sex. What should I do? – Nikki Female, age 18, USA |
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Start dating 47-year-olds. |
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Quickly figure out that this is not the guy for you. Find someone who can respect your wishes without threatening you or getting mad. |
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Realize that it's just about the sex and move on. |
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Don't fold, make him take you seriously. |
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Dump him and find a decent guy. |
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| Dear Panel, I've been with my boyfriend for 1 month (neither of us have any relationship experience - we're both so shy!). I want to make sure that I am making him as happy as he's making me. Does anyone have any tips for little things I can do to keep flirting with him even though we are already together, things that remind him of how much I care about him, and that can make our relationship grow stronger? Thanks so much you guys! – Michelle Female, age 16, Texas |
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Back rubs, random tickling, hugging, going out places, making plans for him. |
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You're a sweetheart. Just show him what you wrote to us. |
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| Dear Panel, My ex-boyfriend of two years and I mutually decided to break up last month. We had grown apart. I have many good friends and a close family, so the breakup was as easy as it could have been. My question is this: I have a good friend who I would like to date, eventually. We have always had a close and honest friendship, and it is gradually becoming deeper and more intimate. Because of my recent breakup and because of our friendship, I do not want to jump in too fast. I would not want to make my friend a rebound out of fear that it would hurt our friendship. We have talked briefly about this, not much. Should we ever pursue a relationship beyond friendship at all? It seems almost inevitable sometimes but my fears are stopping me. If so, how long should we wait before becoming physical (not necessarily sex, but the things that lead up to it)? And should I be sharing these feelings with him? – Cautious Female, age 26, USA |
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Chill out and go with the flow. If you like each other, is there any harm? |
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Each person/relationship is different. Take all the good things you've had in your last relationship, and use them on this next one. Having your eyes and feelings open is a good start. |
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| Dear Panel, Should I go with this married man? I am 18 and he is in his 40s, but he is so nice. I just work with him and I have told him how I feel and he says he will but he may lose his job. – Anyone Female, age 18, USA |
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Really, is there ANYONE else in the world you could go out with instead of a married guy you work with who is twice your age? |
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There are nice men who aren't married, too. And there's certainly a brighter future with one of them as opposed to this guy who already has a life partner. |
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I know a 40-year-old man that's really nice too. He's my dad. |
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If you wanna be responsible for the break up of an entire family, go for it. |
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Sorry, that's the last question. Read the 20 Snappy Answers again
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